Isn't that narcissitic?
These are frequent questions and comments I hear with students, clients, mentees and other amazing Chatterers.
Let's address these:
How dare you not LOVE yourself! YOU are amazing, yes I said you. We have all been fed that line of being too greedy, too big for our britches and uppity. It's when we settle we slip into survival mode. Just getting by; treading water so to speak. Is that really the kind of life you desire to live until the day you go Home?
Surviving is another way to say settle. So many have settled in:
- Love Relationships
- and even Health
It is when one settles their self esteem and self worth plummet. One thinks phrases such as: 'I guess this is all I'm worth.' 'I guess the devil you know is better than the one you don't.' 'My family has never been successful, it's just in our genes.' 'Best not be greedy and just be grateful for what I have, even though I'm not a fan.'
Read those phrases again. Have you ever thought them or something similar?
BE honest. It's rather sad, but at the same time illuminating when a pattern and/or mindset is recognized. For once recognized, one can BEgin anew.
Is Loving Yourself First Selfish?
You bet it is! For by putting yourself first; saying YES to you, saying NO to things that don't jive with you and all around doing what you desire to do with life is absolutely categorized as selfish.
However, and it is a BIG however, when you fill your sacred vessel first (you), you then have more to offer and give to others. The cool thing? You give freely without a thought if they will reciprocate, or not, for you truly don't care. Why? You are giving for the sake of giving. You are not giving to receive kudos in return.
This saying 'Yes' and 'No' thing is much easier said than done certainly. Please start now and BEcome aware first of how many times you avoid saying YES and NO accordingly. Once you are aware and how then it makes you feel afterwards, you will DESIRE to change this, pronto.
Is Loving Yourself First Narcissistic?
Well yes and no. Narcissism can be defined as:
Narcissistic personality disorder —
One of several types of personality disorders — is a mental condition in which people have an inflated sense of their own importance, a deep need for excessive attention and admiration, troubled relationships, and a lack of empathy for others.
~ Webster Dictionary
Did you say 'yes' to any of the traits listed above? Most likely not; therefore, you are not, repeat NOT narcissistic.
You better understand you must take care of you first to fuel you to take care of others. It's that simple. You are empathic and know that this gift while helpful can be detrimental if you do not care for yourself first.
You loving yourself more so you are BEginning to allow yourself to receive all you desire and more.
You offer up others in lieu of you to receive kudos, clients, credit for you know there is plenty to go around. This is not done to downplay your gifts, oh NO! This is done because there are others more qualified than you for they have a Sparkle Zone too. You own that you are a leader in some things, but not all things. So why not collaborate and toot somebody else's horn?
YOU know you have things to do in this life and the best way to get there is through loving yourself more. You love yourself more so you are fueled and rested. you know when you are fueled and rested you naturally have more clarity to take the next steps and beyond to get where you desire to go.
You love yourself more so you give yourself permission to ask for what you truly desire. What you desire BEcomes clearer in all areas of your life; romance, wealth, home, etc. It's one thing to say I want LOVE and my Honey. It's another thing all together to fine tune that statement. As example, someone may LOVE you, but it could be a stalking situation, smothering, abusive. Is that the kind of Love you desire? Hardly. As you raise your vibration and take more care of yourself, the specifics naturally emerge and you own them.
Remember, no more settling and this includes LOVE.
While you desire company, you don't mind spending time alone and remembering more about yourself; what makes you tic, giggle, and excited about life.
This is an area I specialize in - helping woman BEcome more empowered in their romance relationships by channeling the angels and of course Mary Magdalene. Reach out if you are ready to say YES to you.
As hopefully you know by now, Archangel Chamuel is THE Angel of Self Love. She resides in your heart chakra and her soul mission is to help ALL LOVE themselves more. For as shared above, once that road is travelled, there are no more excuses for settling for less than.
It is indeed time to thrive.
Build your base, your foundation for life on Self Love. Allow yourself to shine As Above and BElow in all areas of your life. There are so many ways Chamuel can assist.
Will you allow her?
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